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Book Review: The Story That Made Us Stronger

The Story That Made Us Stronger by Iris March – Book Cover

Book: The Story That Made Us Stronger

Author: Iris March

Genre: Fiction, Mystery

Review copy: Reedsy Discovery

Available at: Amazon

Recommended: Must Read

A book that reverberates with hope and the power of goals to keep us going even in the face of challenges.

The Story That Made Us Stronger by Iris March is a novel that glistens with hope and sparkles with the endurance of the human mind and body. It’s a bittersweet story told from the viewpoints of a nurse and his patient, who is undergoing treatment for cancer. A mysterious building with an unknown past draws them together into a bond as they both seek to achieve their goals.

As Connor Jackson goes around investigating the building that attracted his attention during his daily runs, Katie Brandt finds a diversion in his reports to learn more about the abandoned structure. Connor is her window to a world that is becoming increasingly distant as she struggles with the impact of cancer treatment. Connor has a loving extended family but he has inner battles and preparing for a marathon is his way to find purpose in his life beyond work and family. 

This story is about compassion and a journey of healing. The tenderness of Connor as a nurse and Katie as a young mother fighting to get well for her family is the central theme of this book. However, the more exciting bit is the mystery of a rundown building with a strange pole. This part keeps the story moving along and connects the reader with Connor and Katie’s journey. In the storyline about the building, I see a metaphor for the unknown that we always seek to unveil, to understand, and the mission that keeps us going on each day. We all need a mystery to pursue because sometimes what we go through in our mundane existence is too hard on us.

A book about illness, particularly about cancer can be melancholy but the writer brings to us Katie’s struggle in the least overwhelming way possible. There is a distinct warmth flowing through the pages of the book – a subtle energy that pulls at your heartstrings, and the promise of a mystery that you want to solve. The narration is smooth and balanced. It includes cancer information and its treatment. Connor and Katie’s experiences are entwined in the pages of a book where there is a thrill, a budding romance, and most importantly hope. This book brims with humanness and is an endearing read. I highly recommend it for a gentle summer evening or a bus ride home. 

Book Review: The Age of Single

The Age of Single by Eitan Lee – Book Cover

Book: The Age of Single

Author: Eitan Lee

Genre: Psychology

Review copy: Reedsy Discovery

Available at: Amazon

Recommended: Must Read

A fascinating read for those A research-based discourse on why youngsters prefer to be single and the impact it has on our social and economic fabric.

The Age of Single is a fascinating social commentary backed by historical and literary facts. The text is supported by graphs and tables and embellished with relevant images. Author Eitan Lee has encapsulated a vast array of research. Single, as a term, in this book refers to individuals unattached by the legalities of matrimony. A single person may be in a relationship or cohabiting but not married. 

The contemporary phenomenon of singledom is not as modern as we may think; Lee traces its origins to the “free love” movement of the 1960s. In the background of the Vietnam war and the rise of capitalism, the Hippie movement was breaking all forms of social impositions. The current times are no less different with a multitude of issues defining our social, economic, and ethical priorities. 

The Age of Single aims to understand why youngsters are choosing to be single and what it implies on a psychological and economic level. Is “being single” the epitome of happiness, with its promise of independence and free will? Or, “singlism” and emotional complexities make “singledom” not a fairy tale that we assume it to be? The intricate nuances of the relationship status – Single – are brought out in detail in this book through quotes from social media, books, and research papers. 

Lee talks about the role of feminist writers like Virginia Woolfe, Helen Gurley Brown, Judith Butler, and classic novels in stoking the independence streak in women and the definition of gender in our times. This book draws up nuggets of social revolution history to trace how we reached where we are today. It talks about the new gender identities and “new gender politics” in the “relationship terrain.”

And, does this trend of unattached relationships have any long-term consequences? Well, yes, it does as Lee continues to inform. From lowered birth rates and child-rearing to declining physical intimacy, “the age of single” is creating several consequences for the coming generation. “Waiting is the new secret norm.” Time slips away as we wait and the wait may be momentarily fulfilling but not necessarily brimming with happiness.

Lee’s book is a must-read for a range of audiences. From teachers and preachers to the young and their parents. Unless we understand the currents that are shaping the life of our youngsters, we can not have relevant conversations about “undoing gender” and “gender-fluidity”, along with the future of marriage as an institution. “In this new reality, we are facing a new range of relationship problems hardly known to previous generations.” I loved the book for its crisp narrative and meticulous writing. It is a breezy yet meaningful reference book.