Book: The Age of Single
Author: Eitan Lee
Review copy: Reedsy Discovery
Available at: Amazon
Recommended: Must Read
A fascinating read for those A research-based discourse on why youngsters prefer to be single and the impact it has on our social and economic fabric.
The Age of Single is a fascinating social commentary backed by historical and literary facts. The text is supported by graphs and tables and embellished with relevant images. Author Eitan Lee has encapsulated a vast array of research. Single, as a term, in this book refers to individuals unattached by the legalities of matrimony. A single person may be in a relationship or cohabiting but not married.
The contemporary phenomenon of singledom is not as modern as we may think; Lee traces its origins to the “free love” movement of the 1960s. In the background of the Vietnam war and the rise of capitalism, the Hippie movement was breaking all forms of social impositions. The current times are no less different with a multitude of issues defining our social, economic, and ethical priorities.
The Age of Single aims to understand why youngsters are choosing to be single and what it implies on a psychological and economic level. Is “being single” the epitome of happiness, with its promise of independence and free will? Or, “singlism” and emotional complexities make “singledom” not a fairy tale that we assume it to be? The intricate nuances of the relationship status – Single – are brought out in detail in this book through quotes from social media, books, and research papers.
Lee talks about the role of feminist writers like Virginia Woolfe, Helen Gurley Brown, Judith Butler, and classic novels in stoking the independence streak in women and the definition of gender in our times. This book draws up nuggets of social revolution history to trace how we reached where we are today. It talks about the new gender identities and “new gender politics” in the “relationship terrain.”
And, does this trend of unattached relationships have any long-term consequences? Well, yes, it does as Lee continues to inform. From lowered birth rates and child-rearing to declining physical intimacy, “the age of single” is creating several consequences for the coming generation. “Waiting is the new secret norm.” Time slips away as we wait and the wait may be momentarily fulfilling but not necessarily brimming with happiness.
Lee’s book is a must-read for a range of audiences. From teachers and preachers to the young and their parents. Unless we understand the currents that are shaping the life of our youngsters, we can not have relevant conversations about “undoing gender” and “gender-fluidity”, along with the future of marriage as an institution. “In this new reality, we are facing a new range of relationship problems hardly known to previous generations.” I loved the book for its crisp narrative and meticulous writing. It is a breezy yet meaningful reference book.